Physical attraction is important, but true happiness in a relationship comes from a deeper connection. 

Sure, physical beauty can be captivating, but it's a fleeting quality. What truly matters is finding someone who complements you on an intellectual and emotional level. There are brilliant women who may not conform to traditional standards of beauty, and stunning women with hidden depths of intelligence.

If you ask me, it can quite literally be described on a four-quadrant graph. 

See the image to the left.

This graph depicts the levels of physical beauty and mental intelligence I am going to describe in the opposite sex. (The same can be depicted for males, however, it is not applicable for me personally since I am heterosexual)

The Y-Axis represents their Character (Intelligence, Negative and Positive Personality Traits).

The X-Axis represents their level of Physical Attractiveness.

Quadrant I: Women who are both physically attractive (Positive Value) and have a high Character Score (Positive Value) (The Cream of the Crop).

Quadrant II: Women who are physically unattractive (Negative Value) but have a high Character Score (Positive Value) (Ugly but Smart).

Quadrant III: Women who are both physically unattractive (Negative Value) and have a low Character Score (Negative Value) (Makes me want to puke).

Quadrant IV: Women who are physically attractive (Positive Value), but have a low Character Score (Negative Value) (Pretty but she's a dumba** and/or a piece of s***).

I'm sure any of us would agree that we want to be in Quadrant I (& we want a partner in Quadrant I). 

It's important to understand that any point in the graph can be used to precisely describe the character traits of that individual. 

The variables you use to determine how far left, right, up or down on the graph can be personalized... or you can use my set of logical considerations tethered to our modern society (2024).

Variables for Character: College Education, Social Skills, Emotional Intelligence, Survival Skills, and the total sum of Positive and Negative Personality Traits.

Example: 

Negative Personality Traits

1. Arrogance -1

2. Greed 0

3. Selfishness -1 

4. Impatience 0

5. Dishonesty 0

6. Jealousy -1

7. Laziness -1

8. Rudeness 0

9. Stubbornness -1

10. Manipulativeness 0 

11. Pessimism -1

12. Envy 0

13. Spitefulness 0 

14. Vindictiveness 0 

15. Insecurity -1

Positive Personality Traits

1. Kindness  0

2. Honesty +1

3. Patience +1

4. Generosity +0

5. Humility +1

6. Empathy +0

7. Optimism +0

8. Loyalty +0

9. Resilience +1

10. Courage +0

11. Compassion +1 

12. Dependability +0

13. Flexibility +1

14. Creativity +0

15. Integrity +0

Total Trait Score = Positive Traits + Negative Traits

Total Trait Score = (-7) + 6 = -1

Trait Score = -1 

Education Value: Some College = 0.5pts, Associates = 1 point, Professional Certification (Trade etc.) = 0.75 pts., Bachelors = 1 point, Masters = 2 points, Doctorates = 3 points.

Variables for Physical Attraction: Height, Weight, BMI, Breast Size (If you prefer big or small), Glute Size (If you prefer big or small) (But who wants to be massaging a pancake butt?).

This Variable is entirely subjective to your own preferences. I prefer women with natural breasts. I tend to not prefer women who are overweight, unfit and unhealthy (get out of breath from going on a small hike). 

Your score for their Physical Attraction may be entirely different than my own. You may be a chubby-chaser, I don't know and I don't f*****g care!

Let's pretend you scaled physical attraction of the person you are measuring at 4, on a scale of 1-15 (This will be your X-axis).

Let's also pretend they have some college (0.5pts), a trait score of (-1) and a body that you are mildly attracted to (below average though) (You are going to add these scores together to get your Y)

  So the X-value of their M.A.C is (4)(X-axis is level of physical attraction)... 

  & the Y-value is (-0.5)(-1 + 0.5 = -0.5)(Y axis is level of Intelligence & Character Traits in sum).

M.A.C: (4, -0.5) (Quadrant IV) (Women who are physically attractive (Positive Value), but have a low Character Score (Negative Value). 

We got the y-value by solving 0.5 + (-1) [Since we totaled their trait (character) score at -1, we add this to their Intelligence (education) score, 0.5].

If your argument for intelligence is that you don't need a college degree in order to be intelligent, I beg to differ. In this world, today, it's about what you have, not what you know.

It's about what you have to REPRESENT what you know. I can't tell how smart you are if you just so happen to have read one article about something we are talking about-making you seem temporarily intelligent. 

The only way for an individual to measure your intelligence is by literally taking into account your certifications, diplomas or degrees. It shows the work you have down and it's why our education system exists (for employers realistically). 

But why do we go to school to get a job? So we can survive and reproduce. 

The more intelligent you are, the higher chances you have of reproducing because you have gathered more resources (this applies to both man and woman).

Its also important to understand that their position changes as their decisions change throughout life (and their age). Just because you are stuck on a certain point doesn't mean you can't evolve to where you want to be.

Right now, I admit I am on point (3.5,2). I am 28 years old and am about to receive my associates degree. I am in pretty good shape but I am not in my prime anymore (working my way back).

It's important to have you own scale of what you deem an acceptable age to have obtained their educational degree. Maybe you think it's good that they have an associates only at 40 years old. Maybe you don't. 

Maybe you can create your own point system.

Someone can surely place me wherever they want on their graph. What's important is that you understand your graph. Don't cheat yourself by designing your graph around "Body Positivity". 

 If you are with someone in Quadrant III but are convinced she's in YOUR Quadrant I... that means YOU are a Quadrant III and don't know it. 

This also doesn't depict the Z-Axis which is their level of insanity (narcissism, psychotic personality traits despite their amount of degrees or beauty).

Let's save that for another time.

Try to analyze their behavior after 3-6 months to determine their Trait Score.

Don't get caught up in the initial spark – look for someone whose values and goals align with yours. Someone who inspires you to grow and challenges you to be your best self. That's the foundation for a truly lasting and fulfilling relationship.

Know your place.

And don't get stuck with a Quadrant III. 

Goodbye.

ii i x

I'm not going to lie, that title is totally a rip-off from that new badass euphoric karate movie about that old lady experiencing her life in different timelines (["Everything, Everywhere, All at Once(2022)"]. 

But....

There is a powerful gem waiting for you in this post. 

I present to you the idea....

of feeling Everything, all at once.

It always pisses me the f**k off when people say they are depressed, happy, stressed or pissed off!

I'm not denying my own association with these types of feelings throughout my life. But I couldn't help but ignore the fact that in almost any situation, I am feeling all of these emotions in a mosaic, disillusioned by the rotating gears of time and presence. Time never stops ticking. I could feel pain, happiness, humor, depression and joy... all within a single minute if I really dissected it. Every line of dialogue in my mind that generates after experiencing something can tear me down and make me crack the f*** up within a few seconds. This is the beauty of consciousness. 

Yes.... anger can be a pretty terrible thing to shake sometimes. Studies have shown that it literally talks about 90 seconds for the passionate emotion of anger to subside. 

But, you can't ignore the amalgamation of everything a human feels, in almost any second of the day. Putting single labels on them is, in a way, deceptive to our psyche. 

Why?

Because if we marry ourselves to a specific emotion during any experience, we may as well submit to the idea that we are programmed by some being other than ourself. We may as well live in a 2D world. Because if our emotions were distributed though canals rather than a blender, it's much easier to imagine a simulated, predictable pattern to the atmosphere of human emotion. 

If you are able to experience the past, present and future all at the same time in the fourth dimension (as proposed by entanglement and superposition), then this idea is a direct replica of that tenet.

Next time you feel defined by emotion, realize that you are an amoeba... flowing effortlessly through the channels of love, joy, hatred, chaos, laughter, sadness, excitement, disappointment and jealousy....

...... all at once. 

It doesn't matter what the f***k you feel about anything. 

You are alive and you don't really have a choice. 

Yes... you could be a stubborn bastard and commit suicide but that would ruin the epic point I'm trying to make to you in this f*****g post!

F**k!

Point is.... life's worth living motherf***er. 

I may hate this f*****g karen for being rude to me on the phone, but al I have to do is think about a great memory in my life and that emotion immediately evaporates.... 

How I feel... is completely up to me.

What I think and how I react... is completely under my control.

As every millisecond that passes, I am the driver and I feel everything....

all at once.

If you feel like you need to tell me otherwise....

then you an go f**k yourself.

ii i x

Have you ever seen those cute videos of cats playing with dogs (vice-versa)?

It's clear there must have been early exposure for them to have such an incredible bond considering how different they are from each-other (like polar opposites).

Of course, the vast majority are hostile against one another considering the canines prey-driven instincts.

Can you draw a parallel to the concept of divide among human beings? 

Just like dogs and cats, individuals from different backgrounds, with varying levels of education, or distinct societal statuses may find it challenging to relate to one another due to their differences. The analogy of dogs and cats growing up in separate worlds and potentially becoming hostile towards each other due to their contrasting appearances and behaviors can shed light on how humans sometimes struggle to connect with those who are unlike them.

In the context of the intelligence divide, individuals who come from diverse environments or possess varying levels of education may find it challenging to bridge the gap between their worlds. Just as dogs and cats may not understand each other’s behaviors if they have not been exposed to one another from an early age, humans too may struggle to comprehend those who come from different educational backgrounds or social strata. This lack of understanding can lead to misconceptions, prejudices, and even hostility towards individuals who appear or act differently.

To overcome the intelligence divide, it is crucial for individuals to engage in open-minded conversations, seek to understand perspectives different from their own, and cultivate empathy towards those who may not share the same experiences. 

Just as dogs and cats can learn to coexist peacefully through gradual exposure and interaction, humans can also bridge the gap by fostering communication, empathy, and a willingness to learn from one another.

ii i x

Here is a concept.

Have you ever wondered why it's so hard to remember something that you know you've heard over and over again? 

Or...

Have you ever listened to your favorite album off a Walkman (Cassette player)? Compare the quality with one of the incessant streaming services we have today (like Apple Music or Spotify) and then ask yourself:

 "Which sounds more authentic?"

Magnetic tape creates a warmth that falters the conveniency of digital processors. 

Newer isn't always better.

And maybe it's impossible to remember that one thing you know you've heard a million times is because it wasn't delivered to you effectively.

Whether it's by artistry, emotional support, or even social interaction, "The Method of Delivery" plays a pivotal role in maximizing our experience and retainability. 

Let's explore how this concept applies to different aspects of our lives.

When it comes to acquiring knowledge, engaging our senses is key. By immersing ourselves in visual aids, interactive tools, and sensory experiences, we create stronger neural connections and stimulate our imagination. The power of sensory engagement lies in its ability to imprint knowledge deep within our minds, enhancing our retainability. 

Examples: 

• Reading Books with your eyes vs. Listening to Audiobook

• Physically attending a class vs. Taking the course online (and without Zoom conferences)

• Watching a graphic model of a car engine vs. reading about it in a book.

As you'll notice, sometimes, one method of delivery vanquishes another even though it's poles apart in a separate case.  

Investing in our education is another facet of "The Method of Delivery." 

When we commit financial resources to acquire lessons or courses, we become more engaged and attentive learners. This investment acts as a motivator, encouraging us to seek understanding actively and make the most of the knowledge we gain. By valuing our education, we cultivate a higher level of retention and appreciation for the information acquired. By embodying our debt, we earn our place in the hierarchy.

Expanding beyond academia, we recognize the importance of physical presence in emotional support. 

While virtual therapy platforms provide convenience and accessibility, there is no substitute for face-to-face connection with a therapist or counselor. The warmth of their presence, non-verbal cues, and the trust established through physical engagement significantly impact the delivery of advice and techniques to navigate emotional pain. It is through these physical interactions that we truly experience deep healing and personal growth.

Our social interactions also benefit from conscious delivery. By being present, actively listening, and engaging authentically, we foster deeper connections and enhance the retainability of emotional experiences. By delivering our social interactions with effort, we nurture stronger bonds, allowing us to retain the emotions and experiences shared.

Beyond digital mediums, physical experiences hold a unique value in our quest for beauty. Whether it is witnessing art on canvas or experiencing music on vinyl, the tangible nature of these encounters creates a profound connection that digital platforms often struggle to replicate. By engaging with physical manifestations of art and music, we embrace authenticity and depth, thus enriching our experience and retaining the emotions associated with them.

In conclusion, "The Method of Delivery" holds immense power in various aspects of our lives. By engaging our senses, embracing physical experiences, and prioritizing face-to-face interaction, we can optimize the retainability of information, emotional support, and social connections. Let us consciously explore different delivery methods and adapt our approach to enhance our overall growth, making our learning experiences and human connections more fulfilling and impactful.

ii i x

There is an important tenet that I learned throughout my early twenties.

The value we store within ourselves effects how we care for ourselves. 

What this means is that if you decide not to augment your mind by means of education (reading, going to school, writing), then you are more apt to self-destruct. 

I know that when I fill my mind with data, knowledge and truth... I am less willing to decay my body with drugs and alcohol. There's more value added to the property. The market recognizes my value by giving me a job to pay for my bills. 

If I am of no value to my village, the village will know this. If I do not seek and attain knowledge, my reputation will decay (I have nothing to offer). I couldn't solve anyone's problems. 

I am of no worth... without knowledge.

Seek education.

Fill your mind.

Become valuable.

Then...

Decide whether it's worth it to continue destroying your brain tissue with drugs and alcohol (or any toxic substances).

Decide whether it's worth it to continue enduring meaningless one-night stands.

Decide whether it's worth it to self-destruct.

Choose preservation.

ii i x